My road to becoming a marriage and individual therapist was unique.
Growing up, my mother struggled with addiction and therefore was not active in my life. My father had full custody of me and tended to be very intense about performance and achievement.
Therefore, there was a lot of pressure to "perform for love" and a sense that my more vulnerable feelings were "burdens."
And, because it was just my dad and I (he chose to never date again), I truly had no idea how a romantic partnership should work and ended up struggling for 10 years in my own romantic relationships.
I had all the questions, but none of the books I read or the older relationship professionals had information I could relate to.
So, I took this frustration and decided to pour myself into years of schooling to become a couples therapist.
Unfortunately, the therapy industry teaches a very passive approach and doesn't have high success rates for relationship success. I did NOT learn what I needed to and knew that I had to figure out a REAL solution for both myself and my clients.
THIS is exactly why I went on to create my own research backed approach called "Relationship Theory" that I teach to therapists, my clients, and in my coaching programs.
This approach is based on 70+ years of research on Attachment Theory and 20+ years of research on Neuroplasticity and guarantees real lasting results (not just feeling better temporarily).
I'm proud to be a rebel in the field and strongly believe in being direct, results oriented, and permanently shifting people's brains when it comes to attachment and how they are wired to be secure in relationships.